Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Back to Ukraine

I just wanted to update everyone on our return to Ukraine. Brian has his flight which will leave Denver on Saturday the 1st of November. He will get into Kiev around 1400 on the 2nd, and will catch a flight to Donetsk from Kiev. He will spend the night in Donetsk, and be ready to head to Mariupol on Monday morning to pick up Nastiya!! Nadya will be arriving in Mariupol on Friday the 31st and she will get all of the paperwork together, make sure everything is ready to go so that they can pick up Nastiya and travel back to Donetsk for her Visa. They will then all board the train and arrive back in Kiev on the 4th.

This is, of course, if everything goes smoothly. Brian and Nastiya have return flights to Denver leaving Kiev on the 7th of November, and they will arrive around 0730 AM on the 8th!! I will blog for Brian while he is over there and will keep everyone informed of the progress. The girls, Grandma, and I will hold down the fort until everyone is home. My plan is to go back to work the week after Nastiya's arrival. We appreciate everyone's prayers and good wishes on our adventure so far. All of this has only been possible because of God's answers to our prayers, and we give Him all of the glory!!

Friday, October 24, 2008

Anastasiya Taylor Fields!!!


From the soils of America...Tami and Brian write this new post!
As you are all aware, Tami and I arrived in Denver late last night and are struggling with the vast time change as travel was for over 24 hours straight yesterday-YIKES. However, the smiling faces (and tears) of Tate, Reaghan, and Kenzie last night at DIA made it all worth it! We can't express how grateful we are to be back in the US with the constant pit in our stomach of one of our children still being a half a world away from us, but only for another week!

Court on Monday was very successful and and Anastasiya officially became "Anastasiya Taylor Fields"! No one can truly appreciate the joy we experienced on that day unless you have personally experienced an international adoption. Again, IT IS ALL WORTH IT. Monday afternoon we were "allowed" to take our daughter for lunch, alone and celebrate. Nastiya was full of mixed emotions the entire day which was to be expected. We returned back to the orphanage at 3:00 to partake in Anya Garrett's going away party which was truly an emotional and heartbreaking experience as all of the kiddos were crying tears of joy and more than likely tears of "why not me" as Anya made her appearance and departure. Before the end of the ceremony, Nastiya began crying and through our interpreter, was asking "why were her Mama and Papa leaving her?" Of course, this was extremely hard to take. Nadiya assured her that either Mama or Papa would be back the first of November after the "wait" period to bring her to America. Nastiya, being a very strong individual, understood the reasons why we needed to leave but was still very emotional about our departure.

We caught an overnight train ride back to Kyiv and arrived Tuesday morning and immediately were wisked away by our driver straight to the US Embassy to begin our preliminary paperwork and to assure that only one of us needed to return to Ukraine to finalize the adoption. This went extremely smooth and it was a great pleasure to speak directly to an American. Everyone at the embassy was extremely helpful and considerate. Due to limited flights in and out of Kyiv, we had to stay an extra day before leaving for the US.

Now, we're in Colorado for one week before one of us returns back to Ukraine to finalize our "Ukrainian Adoption Adventure" and bring Our Nastiya Home! We'll continue to update our blog once our plans for return are finalized.

A very special THANK YOU to the Garrett's for keeping our blog as current as possible. We both appreciate all that you did for us and the great companionship in Ukraine as we experienced our journeys together. We can't wait until your arrival back in the States with your Anya!

For the Grandma, Grandpa, Oma, Opa and Aunts: Thanks for taking such great care of our kiddos while we were in Ukraine. No, the house isn't quite how we left it but the girls are happy and healthy and that is all that truly matters. We couldn't have gotten this far in our journey without your help. We truly love all of you!

For Heather Carlson...I was unable to read your comment until now but either Tami or I are traveling back to Mariupol in a little over a week and would be happy to have our interpreter find out as much information as possible. We are not clear which child you're inquiring about so send us as much information as possible and we'll do whatever we can to help another child in Ukraine find a permanent and loving home with you. Either respond to this blog or send us your e-mail address. We're happy to help!

IT'S GREAT TO BE BACK HOME!!!

Thursday, October 23, 2008

On their way!!

It's the Garrett's here, again, this time from Kiev. For those who want to know and/or are following the Fields: received a call from Tami about 9AM. They were waiting at the airport for their flight home. All was well and by the time you read this they will be 1/2 way home. No other information available at this time. I could report a lot of misinformation or start rumors, but that would be wrong.....right?

Good luck, guys! See you soon.

Matt & Aimee

Monday, October 20, 2008

Latest update


On behalf of Brian and Tami, this is the Garrett's submitting a "saved" update from "Word" and also informing all that Brian and Tami left by train for Kiev on Monday evening for arrival in Kiev on Tuesday morning. They will be flying home on Thursday for the 10 day waiting period as their children, other family members and their work is making this the best course for them to take. Court went well on Monday, they attended a going away party for our Anya and then they were off to Donetsk. Below, you will find their last post. Internet access has been down for almost two days and came up this morning. We may see them in Kiev on Wednesday or Thursday and will try to let them use our computer to E-mail and "blog" as needed and as time will allow.



Brian and Tami's last entry:


Saturday in the Park
The girls (Nastiya and Anya’s) choice of activities of the day was an excursion to the Mariupol Park! After an interesting drive through another section of Mariupol, we arrived at the park which was not the typical park to our enjoyment. The first section was a pathway through various Ukrainian houses decorated with the typical painting on the outside of all of the structures. After spending a little time more time on the playground…off to bowling. Expecting a run-down bowling alley, we entered into one of the most modern building we’ve seen in Ukraine. Everyone had a great time and of course, Anya won!!! But the American’s gave it their best!
For lunch-you guessed it, McChicken Pizza at the request of Nastiya and Anya. If we never see a McChicken Pizza in this lifetime it will be too soon. We had to depart earlier than expected and take Nastiya back to the orphanage for some “parent-child discussion”. Fortunately, the remainder of the visit turned out well and another promise to come on Sunday.

Americans vs. Italians
Sunday was an early visit to the orphanage. Greeted with a big smile and big hugs by Nastiya, today promises to be a better day for all. After many conversations that neither of us fully understood, it was time for a good game of Soccer! After a brief warm-up, the Italian family that arrived a few days back joined us with their Nastiya. The “friendly” game quickly turned into which Country is better at soccer: America or Italy? Of course, the American’s (The Fields) gave it our all but as history has shown, Italy had some surprises up their sleeves…another Italian family. The game ended with a score of Italy: 3 and the US: 2. We promised to play again when either Tami or I return in two weeks as that family will still be in Mariupol awaiting their Court date.

As for COURT…we’re still being told that tomorrow is our Court date at 11:00!!! We’ll believe it when we see it but we’re counting on it as Tami and I purchased train tickets for tomorrow night (Monday) at 7:00 out of Donetsk with an arrival in Kiev around 7:00 am, Tuesday morning. Tami and I have both decided to come back to America as the delay in Court has prolonged the waiting time here in Ukraine. We attempted (at length) to arrange our change in flights on Saturday. After increasingly intense frustration ensued with Delta, and constant dropped calls after almost concluding a return flight, Tami called Valentin in Kiev and he reassured us that he’ll take us on Tuesday and arrange our return flights. With our complete trust in Valentin, we’re hoping we’ll have a flight home by this coming Wednesday.
Now…the return back to Ukraine to finally bring OUR NASTIYA HOME…Tami and I are still debating on who will be returning on November 1st for a final Ukrainian Adventure. We’ll decide once we’re back on US soil (and after a good night sleep in our own beds!!!).

To Tate, Reaghan and Kenzie…there is an end in sight to this Adventure that all three of you have been so understanding. Mommy and Daddy know this has been very hard on you and that is the main reason we’re working so hard to come home to you. Hopefully, we’ll be hugging all of you this Wednesday. We’ll call home tomorrow after Court to let you know what is going on. Just know that Mommy and Daddy love you so much and we want to be home with you more than you know.

We’ll try to blog tomorrow after Court if we have time as we have to travel to Donesk to catch our train to Kiev.

Friday, October 17, 2008

Quick Update

Today is Friday and not much has happened since Wednesday. We know that court will be on Monday, although we are not counting on anything. Brian and I have discussed with Nadya both of us coming home after court. We crunched some numbers and decided that with the extended stay, and rent food etc..it might be more efficient for me to come home, and then fly back around the first of November after the ten day wait is up. The way that the days fall now, we would be getting back into Kiev over a weekend, and couldn't get everything accomplished before the next week anyway. We will sleep on it, and see what Monday brings. We will also compare flight rates and see what they look like. Who wants to go to Ukraine in November, right??

Tomorrow, we have permission to take Nastiya out for a few hours, so we will do pizza again for lunch, and I told her I would bring her some of her clothes to wear. Aimee and I are wanting to see if we can trim their hair, while we are out, and then maybe some sight seeing. We will also try to stop by her Grandparents home this weekend to explain to them that we will be coming for goodbyes at a different time. That is really all that is new at this time....

To my girls, we miss you so much, and Reaghan we are so proud of you for being so brave. Tate, you will not be Freddie Kruger for Halloween, that is just not going to happen!! To Kumar, thank you so much for taking care of our lawn, and there had better not be any damage to Bailey!! Thanks also to all of our commenters, they are so great to read. Lisa, I am so sorry to hear your news, and you are absolutely right, we have so much to be thankful for!! Nastiya is doing well, and will be excited when court is over as well!!

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

No Court Today


We haven't blogged over the last few days on purpose this time-not internet issues BUT nothing really has changed until today...just the same, you wake up, drink coffee, get showered, go to the orphanage for of course a wonderful visit with our Nastiya, then back to the flat to sleep. If we're lucky, we'll throw in a meal at our favorite diner-the pizza parlor.


As for today...We arrived at the orphanage and brought Nastiya her Court clothes only to find out an hour later that Nastiya is "too young for Court". After Nastiya's tears dried up, we left for the Mariupol Court house (which is a hallway with a few chairs outiside the entrance to the "Court room" i.e. the judges chambers (office))-not the typical courthouse experience like that in America and the best is we didn't have to go through any detectors or the all invasive Douglas County live strip-show booth. After a few minutes waiting in the hallway, the Court Clerk came out and informed Nadya and the Attorney from the orphanage that the Judge was ill and would not hear our case today but possibly next Monday. I, after holding my feelings in, quickly advised Nadya how the Court process works in America and that we needed to find another Judge that would hear our case. Clearly that is NOT how it's done in Ukraine.


So, immediately we head to our attorney's office to plead our case with him. However, the attorney (who knows the judge personally) couldn't get through to him either. We're promised that everything is being done that can be done. Keep your fingers crossed for Court possibly this Friday and I (Brian) am trying to fly home ASAP. We (through the Garrett's) bought Nastiya some roses thinking that today she would be officially part of our family. Back to the orphanage to break the news to Nastiya who took it ok after Nadya explained to her that Tami and she will be leaving Mariupol around the 27th of October irregardless.


The orphanage allowed Nastiya to leave with us and the Garrett's for an afternoon of great Mariupol adventures! Nastiya, since it was her day, decided to go to McChicken and Pizza for lunch. After several pizza's and chicken and fries, off to one of the many local museums to learn more about the foundation of Mariupol and the Ukrainian/Soviet Union era's. Both Nastiya and Anya appeared to be having a good time. I think Nastiya was just excited be be able to leave the confines of the Orphanage gates. After learning more than we wanted to know, off to the photographers to get Nastiya's and Anya's passport photos. Nastiya asked Nadya if Tami and I would stay with her for a little while upon our return back to the Orphanage. How could we turn that down.


During all of this-the dreaded phone call back to the States. Tate's first question to me was "when are you coming home?" Of course, this kills me more than anything to inform our girls that now it is unknown when I'll be home. Promising to still try to make it this weekend Tate appeared to be okay with it. However, I know she was disappointed but not more than me.


To our Girls-Nastiya was hoping to be part of our family today but knows that we are doing everything possible to make this happen so that we can bring her home as soon as we can. Keep Praying that we get to Court soon so Nastiya will be in our family, finally!

To Tate-keep your chin up and Daddy is trying to get home as soon as I can;

To Reaghan-keep your cheerful attitude and big smile flowing as we all need that right now;

and To Kenzie-we hear you are doing wonderful in school and are happy all of the time and hope you know that we love you and miss you.


We're trying to get home as soon as possible. We love you!


As for watching the horror movies...girls...you know mommy and daddy do not let you watch those movies. Our rules are the same if we're there or not.


More pictures are added on the link to the left.


This is Tami now, today was a day of mixed emotions. We were very stressed, but excited about court this morning, and I had my mind set that my ten day period would start today. It was extremely disappointing to have that not happen and just minutes from when we thought it would be done. However, God has led us in this process from the beginning and He has His reason for everything. We may not understand what that is, but we will trust that the reason is good.


We then went on to have a nice lunch, and a good afternoon away from the Orphanage for a change. We enjoyed the museum and Brian took great delight in proving to Nadya that America actually won WWII, not Russia. We also found a wall dedicated to the Orphanage with pictures of Ludmilla from the 1980's. That was pretty interesting. We took our children to the wax museum, which was like a horror show in wax. I will post pictures also. There were figures of George Bush, Osama Bin Laden, and Hitler standing together. Hmmmmmm


After we left the museum, we saw a burnt out building next door that the boys decided had been bombed out and never rebuilt. The girls took pictures of themselves inside this building and chased the street animals around a bit. All in all, it was an okay day.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Athletics in Ukraine


First, we apologize for the vast delay in our "daily blogs". Our wireless internet is not connecting at the internet cafe's so the Garrett's are gracious enough to allow us to monopolize their computer in their flat for us to communicate to the world outside of Mariupol. (Is there any such thing? The longer we're here, the more we believe the outside world as we know it is gone).


To our girls...each day it gets harder and harder to be away from you. Mommy wakes up first thing every morning wanting to call you. I have to remind her it's midnight back home and our girls need their rest. Yes, for all you mathematicians, we get out of bed around 9:00 am Ukraine time each day and we still feel tired all day. (that's because we have forgotten what fresh air is!)

Tate, Reaghan and Kenzie-please know that we are always thinking of you and can't wait until we can hold you in our arms and give you lots of kisses. When we look at the sky-we know you're looking at the same stars from America and know you're with us in our hearts!


As for the never-ending "Groundhog day" it just keeps going and going like the energizer bunny with a few little sporatic changes.


Thursday was yet another day spent at the orphanage with the good times and the long inevitable good-byes. Nastiya and papa have a lot in common-they're both very stubborn and are determined in their ways. Mama keeps saying "let Nastiya adjust then she'll begin listening to us". I, being the skeptic, question the adjustment but Tami always knows best. (Do you like that, Tami?) After the orphanage, the Garrett's and Tami and I went to the Russian Ballet "Swan Lake"-truly a once in a life time event-had to take advantage of seeing a Russian Ballet in a former Russian territory! It truly was amazing, but it never seemed to end!!! At the end, all of the little future ballerina's stormed the stage to give the ballerina's all sorts of flower arrangements!-Only in Ukraine!


Ukrainian version of "American Road-Rage". As most of you who have been following our blogs, and our families that have experienced the Ukrainian version of obeying the laws of the road-I was fortunate to see Mariupol road range from the luxury of our balcony in our Flat. There was an older vehicle stopped in the one-lane entrance to our complex and a vehicle pulled directly behind him and began to gently "lay on the horn". Ok, that didn't work. So...he gets out of his vehicle, approaches the stopped vehicle, goes up to the door, and a pleasant exchange of Russian 4-letter words were heard. Thought that would do it, didn't you? NO-the second driver goes back to his car, starts the car, and begins to pull towards the vehicle refusing to move.-BOOM, well not quite a boom, but definitely struck the car, pushed the stopped vehicle into the hill, and drove past him with a very satisfied look on his face. I had to ask Nadya, our interpreter, if this was normal. With a hardy laugh it was clear that this type of road rage in Normal. I'll have to try this version of road rage upon return to America and see what type of response I get!


Friday, October 10 was the Garrett's court date-Anya is officially their child. A cause for celebration! After court, we met with the Garrett's and went to a nice little Ukrainian sea-side restaurant. Good company, good occassion, good food (for the most part), but horrible service. Two hours plus just to receive all of our food. I guess the food is brought out as it is prepared therefore one patron could be completely finished with their food while the others are "patiently" waiting their order to arrive. Ukrainian time... Nadya left for Kyiv around 5:00 therefore the four of us are fending for ourselves, and being somewhat successful navigating this Ukrainian village without our sole source of "English-Russian" comfort. So far, so good!


After the sea experience, back to the orphanage. Tami and I arrived around snack time so Nastiya greeted us, then fell into the abyss, known as the second story of the orphanage. Several visits were occuring so Tami and I went into the library to await Nastiya's return. After 30 or so minutes, we felt compelled to go back into the hallway to try to see what was taking Nastiya so long. About that time, we heard crying upstairs not knowing who was crying. Well, it was our Nastiya. The Psychologist brought her down to us. Come to find out, Nastiya thought we had left the orphanage and clearly this upset her. Of course, our hearts immediately fell to the ground and in our version of Russian, we tried to explain to her that we would never leave her without saying good-bye, and would always wait for her. Goes to show just how much experience these kiddos have with people who they thought loved them, to only abandon them. After a hardy game of soccer, basketball, volleyball, and any other sport you can use with a soccer ball, our visitation came to an end. With the promise, in Russian, we told Nastiya we'd return on Saturday for a 3 hour visit---Thanks Ludmilla!


Saturday October 11. It's beginning to feel a lot more like Winter here in Ukraine. For the Caviness'-bring your winter clothes in November-you're going to need them. Okay, this is Tami now, for some reason Brian thinks he needs to start my day to blog!! As Nadya would say, it should state in our homestudy that we have a small male child as well!! Today we actually had to set our alarm clock and get out of bed to be at the Orphanage by 10:oo. We are on Ukrainian time, so of course we were a little late. We brought a puzzle for the girls today, which did not interest them at all. We gave it to the Matthews Nastiya, who poked her head in to say hello, as she does each day.


We tried to interest them in a movie inside, as it is starting to be colder outside, but they would have none of that either. It finally came down to frisbee, and a tennis type game outside. They jumped up and down when we finally agreed to go outside, so this is definitely their preference. I did feed Precious Pirate again today, I hadn't seen her for a couple of days, and I was getting worried. Today, as soon as I saw her, she came running meowing, and got her morning meal.


Matt, Aimee, Brian and I then caught a taxi back up to the flat, and went to the safe pizza place for lunch. Matt and Aimee headed out for a shopping excursion, and Brian and I have stolen their flat to blog. Brian is pretty done with the shopping, and it is really not as comfortable to be walking as it was. Tonight the plan is to curl up in our flat and try to keep warm without a heater. Hopefully our landlord will at some point bring us one. We also saw a couple of Harley motorcycle guys on our way over, and interestingly enough, they were listening to American country music very loudly! Brian began to sing along at the top of his voice, just kidding!!


Saturday also seems to be the wedding day, as we saw at least 4 brides in the park this weekend, and about 9 of them last weekend. They put flowers and tulle all over their cars, and drive all over the city taking pictures at different spots. Obviously central park is one of their favorite spots. We also see a man with several electric kids cars, and you can pay for a ride around the park. There are also pony rides, and a carriage cart available.


We have a definite court date of October 15th at 11:30 AM. We are very excited about that, and we should be headed out of Mariupol on the 27th. We are still trying to figure out what will work best for the ten day wait period, and I am trying to work out the week that I would be here alone. We will let everyone know when we have a decision. Also to all of our friends who comment, we appreciate them so much!! In many ways it is our only communication with home.

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Meet the Grandparents

Today was our day to meet Nastiya's Grandparents. We were a little nervous and although Matt had already taken pictures of them, we weren't sure what to expect. We met Nadya at the Garrett's flat and we all took a taxi down to the orphanage together. Nadya doesn't appreciate the walk to the orphanage, so we usually take a taxi if she is with us. When we arrived, the grandparents were already there waiting. All I can really say is they were completely sweet and it broke my heart.

The Grandmother hugged us and the Grandfather hugged me, and shook hands with Brian. She was talking to me, but Nadya was in the directors office, so I had no idea what she was saying. Nadya came in with us and the Grandmother told us that when Nastiya learned we were coming, she was very happy. She had told her grandparents that we were happy and that we loved each other, at which point Brian rolled his eyes. I asked Nadya to assure her that we loved Nastiya very much and that we would take good care of her.

I also asked her if she wanted to tell me anything about Nastiya's life when she was young. She told us that Nastiya's mother was an alcoholic and that she passed away in 06. The father has a broken spine and can barely walk. She was Nastiya's main caregiver until social services came, and she was happy because the orphanage was a better place than where Nastiya was at that time. She got teary when she was telling me this and I wanted to cry with her. I can't imagine how hard it would be to let your granddaughter go to another country and know that you may not see her again. We promised to send letters and pictures, as they do not have a telephone. We also agreed to come to their home on the Sunday before we leave for Kiev to say goodbye. At that time we will bring them gifts and Brian and I will try to leave them a little money.

They had brought us some pastries, champagne, and vegetables from their garden. It was completely humbling to see that they had brought us what gifts they could. They spent some time with Nastiya after that, and then Brian paid for the taxi to take them back home. We then spent the afternoon playing with Nastiya and we have decided that it is time to take the electronics away for a little while, as that is all she wants to do while we are there. Then when we try to take them back, we get to play tug a war with her. Tomorrow we will bring crayons, coloring book, and we are going to try to find some legos so that we are doing something together.

The Garretts also got told that today was their last day to have Anya out of the orphanage, so we will be going down together, and could play some games and do some activities with the girls together. Aimee bought some nail products, I had brought some with me from home, so we will try to paint some nails.

After our exhausting afternoon, Brian and I took a nap, then we went to meet Matt, Aimee, and Nadya for dinner. Then we came back, watched a movie and crashed again. This seems to be the agenda for each night here in Mariupol.

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Day in the Life of a Ukrainian Adopter

This is a combination of the last two days, as we have not been very exciting lately. The Garretts and the Fields agree that being in Ukraine has made us extremely lazy. We slept in a little on Monday and then the Garretts picked us up in a cab for a trip to FoxMart.

We had quite the experience in the electronic department, with security following us closely. Matt and Brian found a keyboard that has the alphabet in both Russian and English on it for about $20, so they were excited. We also purchased a cheap camera for Nastiya so that our camera would survive the trip. We were checked twice at the checkout stand to make sure that our receipts matched our purchases, and were then checked again in the Market.

We picked up a few supplies, and headed back to our flat. Brian needed an umbrella for us and also for Nadya, so he had to call her on the phone to get her to translate to the clerk that we needed one. No worries for acid rain now!! I found an avocado at the Market, so Brian and I had a sandwich with tomatos and avocado and we felt a little more like we were at home.

We walked down to the orphanage after lunch and Brian and I got to spend some time with Nastiya from 3-6. We quickly decided that we needed more activities to fill our time, as all she wanted to do was take photos. By the end of our time she was sitting on Papa's lap playing games on the cell phone.

We caught a cab up to the main street and had dinner with the Garrett's and Nadya. We seem to end up at the Pizza place each night and are getting really tired of pizza. After dinner it was back to the flat for a movie and we were crashed.

Being in Ukraine is kind of like Groundhog Day, it seems like we wake up to the same day over and over again. Today, we did a little paperwork at the attorneys office, and then it was down to the orphanage to see Nastiya. Today, we brought her the CD player that Karen bought for her to give her something new to play with. We played some cards and Brian practiced his Russian with her. She really enjoyed being the teacher and was teaching Papa the correct pronounciations.

The only news we have at this time is that our court date should be either the 14th or the 15th of October if all goes well. Brian is trying to decide whether to stay with me or head back after court, as I will not have an interpreter and the Garrett's will be leaving about a week ahead of us. I am not sure that I am brave enough to stay here in Mariupol without anyone here with me. If I disappeared, no one would even notice for quite a while. We will get it figured out soon. Thanks so much to everyone for the comments, they are really appreciated!!

To my girls, we miss you so much and can't wait to get back home. Daddy says that if you have any other picture days, please ask one of the neighbor mom's to come over and dress you!! We are really hopeful to be home by Halloween with your new sister. That is, of course, if all goes well. The Grandparents have signed off for us, so that is complete and our paperwork was sent to Kiev today. Tomorrow we will meet with the Grandparents so that they can be assured that she will have a good family. Nastiya decided that she would like her name to be Anastasiya Taylor Fields, so that is the official name for her birth certificate.

We did make our donation to the Orphanage today, so that is finally out of the way. We were also asked to buy a couple of boxes of paper and some files. All of the office workers said thank you as they passed through the waiting room. And on a note to Wendy, Pirate has been fed, I have pictures to send you of her. I also think you should know that she is definitely carrying kittens now, and according to Nadya she should deliver in about a month. To the Matthews, we got to see your Nastiya twice now, and she came in for pictures and hugs tonight. She has the sweetest personality!! We would love nothing better than to sneak her out with us.

Day of Shopping-Oct. 5, 2008

October 5, 2008 –day 3 in Mariupol
“Day of Shopping”
Today’s mission was to conquer the “Ukrainian Mall” which to us in America is viewed as the most gigantic flea market one could ever imagine. Accompanied by my male counterpart, Matt and I kept each other in check while frequently observing the cash outflow. Nastiya thought she had to have it all, and for the most part, Tami and I agreed! Our mission was to find appropriate Court attire and unlike in the US, anything pretty much goes. BUT, Tami and I felt differently. Nastiya picked one pair of dress shoes; one pair of tennis; and one pair of boots. We agreed on a pant outfit but in our attempt to escape the flea market, Nadiya drug us into yet one more clothing store. Oh, the outfit of all times flashed before Nastiya’s eyes… and unfortunately, it fit! Needless to say, one more “Court” outfit!

The true bargain was the DVD and CD kiosk. Tate, Reaghan and Kenzie, you’ll be happy with these bargains if we can figure out the Russian language! Da! Or Nyet are the only words Mommy and Daddy have mastered but we’re trying.

Back to the orphanage for the much dreaded and long good-byes with yet another assurance to Nastiya that we’ll be back tomorrow. Nastiya is back in school tomorrow so we’re not allowed much time with her but every moment is precious.

After hours of endless shopping, we treated ourselves with lunch at McChicken and Pizza. French fries were the order of the Day! After endulging, we all (Nadya, Matt, Aimee, Anya) decided we’d visit the tropical paradise, known in Maiupol as the Sea of Azov. With caution, Nadya told us that a taxi was required as we would be entering into the best areas of Mariupol, next to the factories that constantly spew out a nice aroma of unknown waste. Yes, a shower is required at each days end.

Back to Aimee and Matt flat to make arrangements. Alright, maybe we’ll visit the “tropical paradise” another day.

Tomorrow’s Mission: FINDING UMBRELLA’S.
Nadya has requested that we find umbrella’s as soon as possible as rain is in the forecast. With the acid rain from our neighboring steel mills, and Chernobyl, the local Mariupol’s believe that if the rain directly hits your hair, it’s only a matter of time before your hair falls out. Not a risk we’re willing to take!

For the Hickman's: Your cat is in great shape and being fed each day just as you commanded us to do!!! Having internet issues but I promise photos are coming of your little one.

Many thanks for all the comments!

Sunday, October 5, 2008

Day At Extreme Park 10-4-05

Today began with our soon to be common walk to the local coffee house to enjoy our cup of java before hitting Mariupol! Matt and Aimee joined us for our morning pep-us-up then off to the orphanage. Nastiya was waiting in the parking lot when we walked through the court yard with her typical smiling face! After we called for the cab, the whole clan loaded up into our van and went off on our adventrue at Extreme Park.

Needless to say, this is not Disney World or even Elitches but the girls had a great time. Wishing the whole time that Tate, Reaghan and Kenzie were with us but knowing we'll be doing these adventures as a whole family VERY soon. I'm posting some photos of our adventure. Note, typically when one goes to amusement parks there are thousands of others around you. Well, I believe I counted only a hand full of other brave Extreme Park adventures. However, the Ukrainian Military was conducting their version of "boot-camp" (pictures soon to post). The military definitely increased the population at the park so the feeling of being the lone adventurer began to decline. When the Military were monopolizing the bumper cars I immediately wanted to partake in their little operation. Unfortunately, I was strongly discouraged from joining in on the boot camp fun due to the uncertainty of where I'd end up if I disrupted their operation. I'm assuming the jails aren't as nice as they are in America!

Tami and I, as Nastiya's soon to be official mama and papa, attempted to encourage Nastiya to eat a healthy lunch. OK, we failed as we all ate ice cream, chips (with added Ukrainian mystery additives). Nastiya went one step further and assisted Anya in endulging in "fish-chips". I have to say I tried it and have never in my laugh tasted such a disgusting mixture of fresh fish, locally I presume out of our neighboring Sea of Azov, with a mountain of salt, and I'm convinced that the multiple eye-balls were still intact. We all survived.

Back to the orphanage after Nastiya emptying Papa's wallet for some much needed Ukrainian souvenirs. This is only the second day we've been with Nastiya and the love that is felt continues to flourish. After 18 months, it is DEFINITELY worth every roadblock we encountered to get to our child. No words can describe the joy we are experiencing. After a tearful good-bye, with a promise of our return to the orphanage on Sunday at 10:00, we all said good-bye and left.

Nadya (our translater) immediately wisked us away to the Attorney's office to sign some type of legal documents. I must admit, the attorney's office was much more relaxed than what I'm used to. BUT, remember this is a Saturday and the Attorney and his assistants were all hard at work on, yes, SATURDAY. I'm thinking we should all work on Saturdays!

Posted Photos to come soon.

Saturday, October 4, 2008

Arrival in Mariupol-Oct. 3



6:10 am-knock at the train door opening to a man yelling at me in Russian. How dare he wake us up in this manner ...only to find out he was asking us if we wanted coffee! What a blessing after a train ride from H.E.?.?. Yes, give me the Pot! Knowing we had exactly 1 hour before arrival in Donetsk, just a few more zzzzzsssssss, please.

Taking Valentin's advise, we did not open the door until our new driver announced our names. 7:10 and there was Vladimir (not speaking a word of English) knocking at our door. Tami looks at me, I look at her, and off we go hoping this is the driver that Valentin sent for us and not a member of the former KGB. Into the car and off we go-driving into the twilight zone, or so it seemed. One hour after leaving Donetsk, the driver mumbles "one moment" and pulls off the road to make a phone call. Tami questions this man's motives as we just saw him express his capabilities in driving while talking on the phone at the same time. Why all of a sudden does he feel the need to pull over on the side of this never ending highway in the middle of the former Soviet Union. Of course, even if he was arranging a hit on us, do we really look like we understand Russian? I whisper to Tami to call Valentin to make sure this was man who identified himself to us as Vladimir was actually the Vladimir that was to drive us to Mariupol, or Vladimir aka soviet crusader. Keeping the faith we decide it's in HIS hands as so we continue onward.

A few hours later we arrive in Mariupol-FINALLY! But first, off to the State Inspector's office. Nadya, our interpretor walks out and greets us at the car and takes us inside. Not knowing exactly what was going on, we felt relieved to have a friendly face assisting us. After a lot of Russian exchanges, Nadya informs our driver to take us to get some coffee -it's going to be awhile. Ok, maybe it was going to take awhile but I'm sure Nadya just looked at us and immediately recognized our need for coffee, STAT. (the day long train ride with no shower, etc. definitely played no part in her reaction to us).

Up the hill to the closest coffee shop. Our driver Vladimir pulls the vehicle onto the sidewalk (yes, this is where Ukrainian's park) and opens our door. Assuming the closest door is the entrance into the coffee shop, Tami and I gratiously nod to Vladimir, motioning him to stay near the car (hoping he's not leaving) and enter into the coffee shop. First thing we hear is, "there's a familar face"! Aimee and Matt greet us with a big smile and hug and for the first time a feeling of we're going to make it. After a lot of catching up, we sit down and have our much needed coffee. We phone Nadiya to check the status back at the inspector's office. Not yet. So, off we go to a cafeteria that we can point to what we want to eat! Not bad for something we have no idea what we just ingested!

Phone rings and Nadiya informs us all is completed at the inspector's office and she's coming to pick us up to go to the Orphanage. S. N. We were extremely lucky to by-pass the Inspector's Office as we were fearful of what we would encounter after previous stories from families. No interviews, and NO green dollar "donations". Thanks Nadya!

This is Tami now. We have just spent two days out of three on either a plane, or a train, or an automobile. We have not showered since the previous morning and after a day of running and a night on the train, we really needed one. We did manage to brush our teeth on the train before arriving, so that is better than nothing. It is now time for our first meeting with Ludmilla, the director, and to FINALLY see Nastia!!

Nadya, who is absolutely wonderful, has worked her magic and we bypass the Inspectors office and are now on the way the Orphanage. We arrive and it looks somewhat familiar, but is still very different in person. Ludmilla is actually standing outside talking to some workmen and she is the first person we see. Nadya walks us into the orphange and we go into Ludmilla's office for a meeting with the doctor and the psychologist as well as Ludmilla. Ludmilla was very nice to us and our meeting was pretty brief. We learned that according to Nastia's medical records she has a heart murmur that she will outgrow. We are curious to see what an American doctor will say, as Anya has one also.

Ludmilla asks us if we are 100 percent sure that we are willing to go forward, as David had told her we had changed our mind at one time during the process. Brian and I say that we did not at anytime change our minds (Brian will deal with that issue back in the US). As we are talking with the Dr's, the door opens and in walks Nastia!! I can't even begin to describe how we felt. I wasn't expecting her at this time, and she looked so beautiful and tall!! She gave us both a hug, and Brian and I were both very teary. She sat down on the chair that Brian had been in and he sat sharing the chair with her. She was shaking.

We were asked if we would like her to stay in school until our court date, and we decided that she should. During the week, we will get to see her once each afternoon. However, Ludmilla gave Nadya permission for us to take her with us this weekend for three hours each day. Matt and Aimee are planning to go to Extreme Park tomorrow, so we are now able to take her and go as well. We then spent about an hour outside with each other. Nastia discovered our camera, and she has taken pictures of every flower, cat, and statue in the Orphanage. Brian and I are looking for a cheap camera to give to her so that my camera stays intact.

After we left the Orphanage, we went to look at flats with Nadya and decided on a small brand new flat in the downtown area. It is about a 20 minute walk to the Orphanage and the weather has been perfect. It is not too hot, but not cold either. We will also be close to everthing downtown and should be able to walk to pretty much anything we need. It is really a beautiful flat that has never been stayed in, so it is very clean. We are extremely lucky!

We finally got our showers, and we went to dinner with Matt, Aimee, Nadya, and Anya at the Pizza place. We had a nice dinner and walked back to the flat to hang out and get some sleep. Just as we are dozing off, we were abruptly disturbed from our sleep by all of the falling gunshells, firing artillary, loud explosions, and angry Russian's. "The Russian's have invaded" we thought, only to realize an amazing fireworks display starting up right over our flat. We open our windows, and we can watch the fireworks while laying in be (after breathing a sigh of relief that we weren't being invaded). Then a half an hour after the show is over, it starts all over again. It was the ultimate ending to our incredible day!!

Nastiya has no idea how much we love her!

Tate, Reaghan, and Kenzie, We showed Nastia your pictures and she was very excited to see them. We miss you very much and wish you were here with us. Next time we come back to Ukraine, we will take all four of you girls to see Nastia's birthplace. We love you so much and can't wait until we are all home together!!

THANKS AND PRAISE TO GOD FOR OUR SAFE JOURNEY

Day 2 Kiev and the SDA

After a very long travel day, we were exhausted. So the next morning, we got around and went down to a coffee house for breakfast. The coffee and the breakfast were delicious, although a little expensive, and we were off for a morning of sight seeing. We have decided that Ukrainian women are extremely skinny because they run up and down the hills of Kiev in high hill shoes or boots! The cathedrals were incredible, and we absolutely love Kiev!! Brian has decided that he is moving here, as the hustle is right up his alley.

Valentin met us at about one and we were off to see a few more sights, before our appointment at two. Valentin knows his history and we have learned a lot about Russian history. We were really wishing the girls were here to see this in person. Our appointment was quick, and very casual. We learned that Nastia had been in the orphanage from 2004 and her mother is deceased. She does have Grandparents who have been visiting her, but they are happy about the adoption and will sign the papers relinquishing any rights.

After our meeting, we walked around Kiev for another hour, looked at souvineers, and had dinner at McDonalds. Valentin picked us up at five, we got our referral from the SDA, and we were off to the train station. Brian and I have decided we have way too much luggage and if we were to do this trip over, we would pack lighter.

In our train compartment, we barely had room for us with all the luggage. We settled down for the night to watch a movie, relax, and enjoy the train ride. We got very little sleep that night as the train ride is a little like the runaway train ride from Disney. There were several times we were convinced that we were derailing and the conductor was definitely not Tom Hanks from Polar Express! However, this was another Ukrainian adventure, and we arrived in one piece.

Day 1-Destination Ukraine

Leaving home was nothing more than a heartbreaking experience...the girls, Tami and I left the airport with not a tear left to produce. But, we all know that this trip is well worth it! Nastiya, HERE WE COME.

Trip from DIA to Atlanta was uneventful. However, catching the flight from Atlanta to Paris was something more than calming. We began leaving the concourse to the runway when all of a sudden the plane began to return to the concourse. Overhead, the Pilot announced we were returning to the concourse due to a leaking faucet. I being a non-plumber believed that I could take care of the situation knowing full well we only had a one hour lay-over in Paris to catch our flight to Kyiv (Kiev, Ukraine). Tami told me to sit down and that it was being taken care of. 2 hours later-off to Paris!

Sorry Reaghan, no time to see the Eiffel Tower but look at the pictures of the Fields' version of the Eiffel Tower! Obviously, we missed our flight from Paris to Kyiv and being told by someone I was relying on---flights to Kyiv only occur 1x daily. Not possible. Our appointment with the Ukrainian State Department is before that. As the One who has gided us this far, 4 hours later we were boarding a plane to Kyiv! After the process of getting through customs, we located the luggage area and frantically began searching for our European phone, thanks to the Matthews for loaning it to us. I found the phone, immediately called Valentin to inform him we finally made it. Valentin, as we soon found out, doesn't have an anxious bone in his body kindly informed us that our driver has been waiting for us near the baggage claim. Right about that time, Tami yells Sergei! Tami and I must have walked right by Sergei in a mad rush to find our luggage and failed to notice the large sign Sergei was holding which spelled "FIELDS". I guess we were looking for the Ukrainian translation of "Fields". Wisked away to the car with Sergei constantly telling Tami and I, "don't worry", "everything's o.k.", "I'll carry the luggage" etc. Well, if you saw how much luggage Brian packed you'd be feeling sorry for Sergei as well.

Alright, all you previous Ukrainian travelers warned us of the "driving" but you can't appreciate it until you're here. Imagine, traveling down the highway, glimpsing over the driver's seat to look at the speedomoter, and seeing the numbers in triple digits. not sure if it was in kilometers or MPH but either was, we were traveling at the speed of light. Just when you thought it couldn't get worse, Sergei mums the words, "good bye little car" and began merging into the other lane with the little European version of a small size car being taken off the roadway. With a gentle laugh, Sergei says something to the effect of "small cars don't have a voice". However, if your driving a Mercedes the Police actually stop the lanes to allow you to turn wherever you want. Trading in the large SUV for a Mercedes when we return to the US to see if we get the same treatment.

First night in Kyiv was amazing (once we finally arrived there in one piece) Photos of Kyiv will be posted later today on the photo web link Tami posted on the previous blog.